[DARE #14] – Unstuck Yet? – What Went Wrong in 2014?
It’s the last Sunday challenge of the year. Last week I encouraged you to figure out ways to delegate yourself out of your current job to a better one – it was a forward-looking task.
Now, let’s take one step back.
Be warned: this one is uncomfortable – for everyone but it’s about increasing our self-awareness.
If we increase our self-awareness around the promises that we make to ourselves
If we increase our self-awareness around the expectations we place on ourselves
If we increase our self-awareness around why we have unfulfilled promises and unsatisfying expectations
…then we can get to the root of what it will really take to achieve our desires in the new year.
So, dare #14 is for you to revisit your 2014 New Year’s resolutions.
Crack open that old notebook.
Read your list.
- So did you eat healthier?
- Are your finances in a better place?
- Did you get that makeover?
- How did that career transition go or not go?
- Are you in a new home?
- Did your business grow?
- Did you launch your website?
- Are you happier today than when 2014 began?
Think through your 2014 New Year’s resolutions
Cross out the ones you got done and celebrate those
Highlight the ones that you didn’t get done in 2014
The assignment is not to dwell on missed opportunities but to figure out why you left so much on the table.
Chances are (unless you had few or zero 2014 resolutions) that a few big ones did not happen
Chances are that year after year the same one is haunting you
When looking at those unresolved dreams – ask yourself
- Did I ever really want that or was I trying to fulfill someone else’s expectations?
- Was I really ready to sacrifice my sleep or family or [x] time for that goal?
- Did I continue to surround myself with unsupportive folks?
- How well equipped was I by myself to reach that goal?
- Was I setting myself up for disappointments by aiming for unrealistic goals?
- Was I seriously sober when I wrote that? (Just kidding, maybe?)
Here’s an example of one of my own 2014 unfulfilled goals:
My goal was to have in place a do-it-yourself product so that when I birthed my twins I could continue to sustain my business while going from being a mom of one little boy to three boys.
So how did I net out?
I created this sales page.
I sent a note to my database 1.5 months prior to going on maternity leave.
I sold some packages.
And then proceeded the sound of crickets.
I went on maternity leave for about four months.
And instead of selling this DIY packet…former and new clients wanted more of me and my time rather than less of me and my time
In other words, you guys didn’t really want to do-it-yourselves
You prefer a partner
A sound boarding
A strategic career expert to give you confidence in knowing that you are doing everything right or who will help you think through what you’re doing wrong based on years of experience
So after reviewing this 2014 goal
Getting to know hundreds of you
And evaluating my anticipated 2015 “best” life
My plan is to offer higher-touch, even more tailored, deeper diving career coaching options to fewer clients in 2015
You want more of me and I want more of you.
Let me explain.
You want me to be accessible the night before your interview
You want me to iron out your interview answers
You want me to uncover usable insights around your interviewers
I want to teach you the most effective ways to outsmart your competition based on your specific situation
I want to show you how to work a room filled with prospective colleagues, leaders or direct reports while taking into account what it will take to get YOU comfortable in a stressful setting
I want to meet you one-on-one
Now, there is no sales page (yet).
My rationale behind my example is not to sell you on my brainchild – instead I want to show you how you can think about your 2014 unrealized resolutions to inform your 2015 goals so that they will have a higher likelihood of success.
Now, it’s time to reevaluate your 2014 resolutions
Be honest with yourself
Uncover why some never happened
And use those insights so that 2015 is more productive and fulfilling.